How to Get Your Boyfriend to Move In

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Are you ready to take things to the next level with your boyfriend? Moving in together is a big step, but it's a great way to get to know each other. If you're ready to wake up to the same face everyday, it's time to get your boyfriend on board. Keep reading for instructions on convincing your boyfriend that now's the time to start building your future together.

Steps

  1. Start talking about the future; make sure that you and he are ready for this, emotionally and financially.
  2. Let him leave things at your house like his toothbrush and bath towel. Let him know that you smiled and/or got happy when you saw his things when he was not there.
  3. Go out of town and give him your house key to watch your pets. If you do not have pets, ask him to water your plants while you are away. If you do not have a plant, go out and buy one. Then forget to ask for the key back.
  4. Every time the two of you go out and go back to your place, have him open the door while you kiss and cuddle with him.
  5. When he comes over, do not answer the door; make him unlock it with his key. This might be weird at first, but it is a small price to pay to get what you want.
  6. Start to casually refer to your apartment as home. For example, "Honey, are you ready to go home?" If this does not work, casually start referring to your apartment as "our" apartment. Not all the time; more like a slip of your tongue.
  7. Ensure that he has a role to play in the home...re-do some decorations and obtain his input, make him feel his input is important.
  8. Start shopping together for items (even if it's groceries) and ensure that you praise his decisiveness. Later on you can say things like 'your so much better at e.g doing the groceries more than me'.
  9. Start telling him how far away he lives/roommates smell/it is messy. Anything to only hang out at your place.
  10. Tell him you want to live with him after properly setting him up. The transition should be painless.
  11. Remember, the key here is him being attracted to you. Make sure you continue to have fun with him, joke with him, give him the space he needs, and take your own time to fulfill your passions. All of these build his interest in you.

Tips

  • Tell him that you love waking up with him.
  • Make sure he has stuff to do that he enjoys - watching sports on TV, a computer he can use, magazine subscriptions
  • Ask him to come over straight after work so he gets used to the idea of showering at your place and coming home to you.
  • Shop for things for your apartment together. Let him pick out things; ugly or not he will feel like it is his home, too.
  • Don't make him feel like he has to clean up after himself all the time. Let him feel comfortable to leave a small mess, like he would at his own place.
  • The less he sees of his place, the more he starts thinking of your place as home.

Warnings

  • Remember why you want to move in together in the first place: because you love each other. Don't read the above and try to "trick" him into being invested in a relationship built on manipulation.
  • Don't nag or act desperate and clingy. If he doesn't want to, that's a big sign. A guy who wants to will hint about it himself. Ask once, and if he says no, don't bring the subject up for a few more months. You don't need to have a long talk or discussion about all the pros and cons - he will continue to think about it after you suggest it, but talking on and on about it will not get you anywhere. Don't have a long discussion until he's agreed.
  • Don't sweat the small stuff. He may do things differently than you. Compromise, adapt, and when it doesn't matter, let him do it however he wants.
  • Make sure to get him on the lease and talk about all bills beforehand; it will save you from arguments later.
  • The success of the above advice is dependent upon your understanding of your boyfriend's behaviour as well as timing.
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