How to Get Your Dad to Stop Being over Protective

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2-10-2016, 16:55
Many fathers are perceived by their children as being overprotective. If you want your Dad to stop protecting you from things you can handle, these steps may help you.


  1. Remember that some of the things your Dad is trying to protect you from really are things that he considers you aren't ready for yet. Think about when you were small. Your Dad protected you from running into the road, from touching hot things that would burn you, from falling off your bike by teaching you to ride it, and so forth. He did all those things because you weren't developed enough to do them on your own. It's just the same with a lot of things when you are older, but before you have completely grown up.
  2. Help your Dad to realize that you are mature enough to handle whatever situation you're in. This requires demonstrating that you can be trusted, that you conform to house rules and that you are taking care of the things you're responsible for, such as caring for pets, doing household chores and completing all of your homework on time.
  3. Grow up at last. When you become older, you're going to start wanting to do more things on your own, including going out and doing things with your friends. That means first that you need to show him you are no longer the little cute girl or the little man. Your Dad needs to begin seeing you as the young adult you are, and it's up to you to demonstrate that this is now the case.
    • Don't whine or shriek when you don't get your own way about things.
    • Show that you can handle things like getting a spider out of your room, collecting your own clothes and washing them and turning up to classes on time without being forced out the door.
    • Quit the princess talk. For girls, this can be a real turning point in growing up. Trying to remain dad's princess all of your life is a sign of immaturity and an unwillingness to grow up. Tell Dad you loved being a princess when younger, but now you're a young lady.
  4. Demonstrate your maturity at school. It is important to show your parents that you're mature enough to handle school. Get good grades and show them that you care about your future and the opportunities that they have given you. Show them that grades are important to you. Sometimes demonstrating these things can lead to you getting permission to go out on your own or to be trusted to get on with something alone.
    • For example, if they didn't let you go out on Friday, get a good grade during that week in a test or/and quiz and tell your Dad. After that, go on and ask him if you can go out.
  5. Tell your Dad you are grown up. If your Dad is of the sort who only answers: "No", "I will think about it", "Let me see", and rarely says "yes", start telling him that you have already grown up enough and want to do things with your friends and enjoy the time you have left with your friend in school or university (if you live with your parents). Explain that other kids your age are already given such opportunities and that they're doing just fine.
  6. Make compromises that are a win-win all round. If Dad will let you go to X party until 2AM but insists on picking you up, go for it. A free, safe ride home. If Dad will let you and a friend travel to the music show in the next county over but insists on coming with you and booking accommodations nearby, take the free ride and comfortable bed. There are good ways to keep your Dad involved in your activities, at enough arm's length that you're freer but still with enough of a safety net to ensure that you stay safe.


  • Persevere and be compassionate. It can take time for a parent to truly come to terms with a child finally growing up. So much love and dedication has been put into getting you to this stage, that it can be hard to let go.


  • Fathers definitely shouldn't be over protective of their grown up children. Stand up for yourself if you're an adult with an over protective Dad by all means.
  • A father may find it harder to let a daughter have more freedom than a son. This is something that you need to talk to your Dad about honestly, letting him know how this you feel and why you see it as being unfair.
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