How to Impress a Guy

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If you really want to impress a guy, then the worst thing you can do is to try too hard. Instead of trying too hard, you should focus on being yourself, embracing your quirks, and being a fun and clever conversational partner. And if you and the guy share a common interest, then you'll be even more likely to impress him. If you want to know how to impress a guy no matter who you are or where your interests lie, just follow these simple steps.

Catch His Eye

  1. Show an interest in him. If you want to impress a guy, then you have to make him feel that you care about who he is as a person -- just not too much. When you do start talking to the guy, you should talk about the things he likes to do, what he's interested in, and just generally the things that intrigue him. This doesn't mean you should interview him or ask him too many questions, but it does mean that you should be attuned to the things he wants and cares about.
    • Let him open up little by little, as you reveal information about yourself too. Don't bombard him with personal questions.
    • Keep it light. Talk about his dog, his best friends, or his favorite sports teams -- you can get to the serious stuff later.
    • Ask his opinion on a variety of subjects, from current events to the Super Bowl.
  2. Find common ground. Once you've talked to the guy for a while, you should be able to find a few things that you have in common, whether it's your loyalty to your families, your love for the beach, or your mutual obsession with travel. It may not feel like much, but you should build on the interests you share to develop a connection. This will give you more to talk about, and will make the guy more impressed by you.
    • If you know the guy is really crazy about the Mets, it wouldn't hurt to look up some information on the team so you can impress him the next time you talk. You don't have to become an expert on the subject, but it would give you something to talk about.
    • You may not have many similar interests, but you may share similar personality traits -- maybe you both have a silly sensibility or a sensitive side. You can build off of that, too.
    • You can even find common ground by finding something you both dislike or want to laugh at, whether it's Justin Bieber or your sixth period chemistry teacher.
  3. Use positive body language. A guy will be much more impressed by you if your body is in an "open stance," and says that you're ready to talk and have a good time. The first thing you should do is smile to show the guy that you're disarming and ready to have fun. Then, you should work on using your arms to gesture or keeping them at your sides instead of crossing them over your chest, and turning your body toward him, so that he knows he has your attention.
    • Make eye contact when you talk to the guy so he feels special.
    • You can play with your hair a bit or lick your lips occasionally if you want to be flirtatious.
  4. Fascinate him. If you want to impress a guy, then you have to be a fascinating conversational partner. Though giggling and flirting and showing him you like him can get you far, he has to also enjoy talking to you and find you a stimulating and engaging conversationalist. To do this, you have to be able to keep a conversation going, to go beyond the small talk to the depth of a matter without being overwhelming.
    • If you've read something fascinating, don't be embarrassed to mention it. The guy will appreciate your insight.
  5. Let him see what makes you special -- without showing off. You don't have to tell him that you're the star of your track team -- he can figure it out. Just talk about how much you love the sport while being modest, and maybe he'll come see you in a race or hear what a great runner you are. Talk about the things that you excel at or the things that really make you shine, and he'll see that you're a unique individual worth pursuing.
    • You can share the things that make you unique without bragging. Maybe you're special because you have a twin, because you have five kittens, or because you love walking on your hands. Find a way for him to find out how unique you really are.

Be Yourself

  1. Pursue your interests. If you want to impress a guy, then the best thing you can do is to pursue your interests and work on becoming a more interesting, well-rounded person. Though you can certainly love watching two seasons of Gossip Girl back to back, you should pursue an interest that is a bit more productive for your mind or body, whether it's yoga, painting, singing, ballet, or creative writing. If you work hard to achieve your goals while pursuing a variety of interests, any guy will be impressed by your talent and dedication.
    • And if you have many interests, more power to ya -- then you'll have even more room to grow and more things to talk about.
    • If you're not really sure where your interest lies, it's never too late to find your passion. Finding something you really care about will make you a more interesting, dynamic person.
  2. Stop caring what people think. Another way to impress a guy is to be so happy with who you are or who you're becoming that you don't care what other people think about you. This doesn't mean that you should be a jerk to anyone who comes your way because you don't care about how people feel, but it does mean that you should be kind and courteous to people without obsessing over how you can please people, make everyone happy, and avoid having anyone say anything negative about you at all costs.
    • Don't spend all of your time trying to please your friends or enemies, or any guy will see that you're not being true to yourself.
    • Don't constantly check your reflection in any mirror you see, or reapply your makeup a million times in public -- this will make it look as if you're insecure about your appearance.
    • Don't let other people get you down. If people criticize you for no reason, don't listen to them or change who you are for the benefit of others.
  3. Have a blast with your friends. If you really want to impress a guy, then he has to see that you're just fine without him. No guy wants a girl who is desperately looking around the room or checking her phone, hoping that the right guy will approach her or send her a message. Instead, guys want a girl who looks like she's having a great time with her girlfriends and couldn't care less if a guy comes along -- this will make you look much more appealing and hard to get.
    • When you're out with your friends, work on living in the moment and laughing, dancing, and generally having a great time instead of wondering who will walk up to you.
    • You don't have to ignore guys who approach you or notice you when you're with your friends, but you shouldn't look desperate for male attention.
  4. Embrace your quirks. If you want to impress a guy, then you can't be afraid to be different. You need to learn to embrace whatever makes you an individual, even if you're afraid it's a little dorky or retro. If you love drawing comic strips, reading science fiction, or dancing the polka, then good for you -- that's something that will make you even more interesting.
    • Don't be afraid to not mention, or even not pursue, the things that really make you happy just because you don't think it appeals to guys.
    • Don't be different just for the sake of being different -- that will make it look like you're trying too hard.
  5. Learn to laugh at yourself. If you really want to impress a guy, then you have to know how to not take yourself too seriously. A guy really wants a girl who is comfortable enough in her own skin to poke fun at herself, to let others make harmless jokes about her quirks, and to generally pal around and know she's not perfect. Being able to laugh at yourself will make you more self-aware and confident -- if you don't think you have any flaws or think you should be taken seriously at all times, then you won't be much fun to hang out with.
    • This doesn't mean you should let others make cruel jokes at your expense -- it does mean that you should be comfortable with taking a well-meaning joke.
    • If you know how to laugh at yourself, you'll also be comfortable teasing a guy and being teased, which is a great flirtation strategy.

Impress Him

  1. Be charismatic. If you want to impress a guy, then you should be charismatic and be able to charm everyone in any room you walk into. This doesn't mean being overly loud or dramatic -- just act natural, and be happy to walk into any room, even if you don't know anyone there. A truly charismatic person can talk to almost anyone and make him feel at ease, whether it's an eight-year-old boy or an eighty-year-old woman.
    • When you talk to people, use their names. Make people feel good about themselves and keep things positive.
  2. Be witty. Guys are always refreshed and pleased by a girl with wit. To impress a guy with your wit, work on being clever, being able to keep up a flow of intelligent and sharp banter, and to wow him with your word play, insights, and quick reactions. Being witty means looking at the world in an original way and being funny and creative at the same time.
    • If the guy says something funny, don't just laugh -- respond back with an equally funny comment.
  3. Be confident. Guys are impressed by confident women, because this shows that they have a natural ease with themselves and are happy with who they are. Confident women are fun to be around, add positive energy to any situation, and make other people around them feel good. If you really want to impress a guy, then you should be happy with who you are, what you do, and where you're going.
    • If you're feeling confident and the conversation is going well, you can even reach out to touch the guy.
    • Building confidence doesn't happen overnight -- it can take a lifetime. But making a goal of being happier and more pleased with who you are can help you feel more proud and happy to be sharing yourself with others.
    • Fake it until you make it -- walk with your head high, your shoulders back, and with your eyes looking straight ahead, not at the ground. You'll already begin to exude confidence through your body language.
  4. Be original. Guys love girls who stand out from the pack and aren't like everyone else. Don't be afraid to be original, even if it means to dye your hair pink, dance like a maniac, or to learn how to make your own sushi. Whatever you really want to do, go after it, and you will be rewarded. Guys are impressed by girls who aren't like everyone else because they're worth knowing.
    • Being original will not only help you impress guys, but it'll also lead you to make more friends and to be friends with more interesting people.
  5. Be independent. Guys love girls who are independent and who love to do their own thing. The last thing a guy wants is a clingy girl who wants her life to revolve around his -- instead, guys want a girl who is happy being on her own and hanging out with him. To be independent, you have to not only be comfortable pursuing your own interests by yourself and generally having some "me time," but you also have to avoid conforming or doing whatever everyone else is doing just because that's what's cool right now.
    • Being an independent person also means being an independent thinker. You should learn to act and think on your own.

Tips

  • Be yourself. Don't act like someone you're not because guys tend to not like it when a girl is being too "fake". Never change who you are just to impress a guy.
  • Act cool, dress cool, and feel cool. But try to be yourself. Following this tip could attract your crush.
  • Make him laugh! Everyone loves a giggle or two, and it could make him feel comfortable around you.
  • Don't be afraid to talk to him at all! What's the worst that can happen? Try not to be shy.
  • Always be nice to him. Don't ever say you hate him because that for him is gonna say you're out of his league
  • Make sure you keep yourself clean. Shower regularly, wear fresh clothes and use deodorant. Nothing is more repulsive than a girl with greasy hair and pit stains.
  • Make sure that you are impressing the right guy.
  • Don't feel ashamed of sharing your feelings with him. Make him feel that you can share anything with him without hesitation.
  • If a guy is not flattered by you, don't worry, move ahead because life has something better for you.
  • If you really want to attract this guy to you, don't flirt or talk to too many guys other than him. Guys like competition, but not too much.
  • Guys always like a bright smile and a romantic scent.
  • Do not overdo anything. If you wear too much makeup or perfume, it will turn a guy off. Too much perfume is like mosquito repellent for a guy.
  • Make up is fine, but apply it in moderate amounts. If you look like a clown, you're not going to get him. A morning glow is nice, don't overdo it.
  • He may try to make a joke once in awhile. Even if it's not the best joke, you're showing him a sense of humor when you laugh. But don't totally fake it even if the guy is cute. He and other guys will notice and think of you as shallow, and that's a big turnoff.
  • The hardest part for all girls is eye contact but it works! Be confident and look the boy in the eyes that way he knows your listening to him.
  • Do not try too hard. This is a major turn off, and it makes it look like you're obsessed. Even if you are obsessed, you do not want to show it.
  • If you have tried to get the same guy once before and failed, try looking cute every day and don't pay attention to him. He will pick up that you do not truly care for him.
  • Use perfume and body mist very lightly so you do not gag him or your classmates/co-workers.
  • Try to look as cute as possible while getting all of the other guys not to look at you.
  • Don't be afraid to be different either. Most guys prefer girls who are not the exact same as every other girl on the planet. Don't feel like you have to fit all the latest trends or do what the "popular" kids do.
  • Don't keep thinking something like "when is he going to say 'will you be my girlfriend'
  • When you talk to him, tilt your head and look from underneath your eyelashes.
  • Ask for his number so you can keep in touch.
  • Stay cool and ask him out the first time.
  • Twirl your hair. When you twirl your hair or talk to your fellow classmate acting happy you are more likely to get his attention than being solemn. Do not change your tone; a guy could notice that very easily.
  • If the guy is sporty take interest in that sport and get to know it so you can a conversation about it.
  • Don't change yourself. If they don't like you then make them see what they're missing out on.

Warnings

  • Ignoring him is okay--to see if he would worry about you--but ignoring him for too long can cause plenty of problems.
  • If your breath smells then don't talk to him until you have a piece of gum or a mint. If your breath does stink and you talk to him, he will think you're weird and very unattractive.
  • Don't wear skimpy clothes. You might think it's attractive but if you're looking for a long term relationship with a guy who's respectful, that will be the last thing you get.
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