10 Ways to Text a Girl for the First Time - wikiHow

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7-12-2023, 21:10
Whether you met a girl online, on a dating app, or in person, sending her a text can take things to the next level. Starting out on the right foot can make or break your relationship, so it’s important to really think about what you want to say before you send it. We'll give you helpful tips and examples for your first text message to a girl you like and help you keep a fun, lively conversation going!

Reintroduce yourself.

  1. Remind her who you are so she can save your number. If you met on a dating app or in person, just send her a quick text with your name included. Keep it short and sweet, and don’t send anything too long in your first message. Try something like:
    • “Hey it’s James from Tinder!”
    • “Hey! It’s Marissa from the party last night.”
    • “How’s it going? This is Sam, we met the other day.”
    • “What’s up? It’s Candice, Jamie’s friend.”

Revisit your previous conversation.

  1. You probably talked to her a little bit when you got her number. Whether you chatted online or in person, you can continue your conversation wherever you left off. It’s an easy way to keep a conversation going, and you already know she likes talking about the subject! Say something like:
    • “So, we never finished our debate last night: are hot dogs a sandwich?”
    • “I had to leave so early last night that I never heard your answer—did you grow up around here?”

Keep your messages short.

  1. Long-winded text messages can be overwhelming. As you two chat, keep your messages down to one or two lines at most. Don’t send paragraphs, and try not to text her more than once in a row without a reply. You want to keep her attention, but you also don’t want to make her read a novel when she opens her phone.

Ask her questions about herself.

  1. Keep a conversation going with open-ended questions. These are ones that she can’t just answer with “yes” or “no.” As she answers, you can also give your own answers so you’re both sharing a little bit about yourselves. Try questions like:
    • “Where’d you grow up?”
    • “How many siblings do you have?”
    • “What do you like to do for fun?”

Give her a compliment.

  1. Try to compliment something other than her appearance. You might tell her that she’s fun to talk to, that you love getting to know her, or that she seems really cool. Most girls are flattered by compliments, and she might even give you one in return! Say something like:
    • “You seem like such a cool person. I’m really glad I’m getting the chance to get to know you.”
    • “I had such a fun time talking to you at that party the other day.”
    • “I have such an easy time talking to you.”

Talk about your common interests.

  1. Maybe you two watch the same show or do the same hobby. Whatever it is, you can ask her about it to keep a fun conversation going. Plus, you’ll get to know a little bit about her in the process! If you aren’t sure what you guys have in common yet, try looking her up on social media to get an idea of what she likes to do. Say something like:
    • “Have you been watching the new season of Riverdale? I’m almost caught up!”
    • “How long have you been surfing? I’ve been going since I was a little kid!”
    • “Whoa, you like to rollerblade too? I can never find anyone to go skating with me.”

Ask for a recommendation.

  1. It’s an easy way to show you value her opinion. If she’s lived in the area longer than you have, maybe you can ask her for a nice restaurant nearby. Or, if she loves to read, you could ask her if she has any book recommendations for you. Say something like:
    • “Where’s your favorite place to eat downtown?”
    • “Have you read any good books lately?”
    • “What’s your favorite coffee shop in this area?”

Share things about yourself.

  1. That way, you can both get to know each other. As you two text back and forth, open up to her and answer any questions she has. She’ll probably feel more comfortable about meeting up with you, too, if that’s your end goal.
    • An easy way to share things is to talk about yourself, then ask her a similar question.
    • For instance, you might say, “I grew up in Houston, but I moved to Austin when I was 18. Where’d you grow up?”
    • Or, “I’m not a huge fan of baseball, but I love basketball. Do you watch any sports?”

Set up a date to meet her IRL.

  1. If you like her, make your intentions known. Texting is fine, but hanging out IRL is the best way to get to know a girl. Ask her if she has time in her schedule to grab dinner or go get coffee. Don’t wait too long to ask her out, or she might think you aren’t interested. Say something like:
    • “Hey, do you have any free time next week? I’d love to grab a coffee.”
    • “Do you have any plans tomorrow? Want to grab dinner?”
    • “I really enjoy talking to you. Would you ever want to continue this conversation in person?”

Examples to Text a Girl for the First Time


  • Texting a girl for the first time can be nerve wracking. If you feel anxious, try taking a few deep breaths to calm down before you hit send.
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