How to Act Like a Dominatrix

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A dominatrix is a female who takes the dominant role in a bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM) relationship (note that 'dominatrix' is most often the term used for paid professionals in the field). Sometimes women want to role play being a dominatrix for fun, perhaps to act out a hot scene that they have seen in a porn movie (this should not be confused with a dominant woman who is actually having a BDSM relationship, which bears no resemblance to anything described here). If you want to act out that fantasy role for you and your partner's mutual pleasure, read on. Knowing how to act like a domme will help you stay "on top" of the situation. Proper behavior, communication, and procedure is incredibly crucial not only in fostering a nurturing relationship, but also avoiding any physical or psychological trauma in either party.

How to Look Like a Dominatrix

  1. Get the right clothes. A full-bodied (often black) catsuit is a mainstay of fetish and bondage culture. There's a difference between a dominant lifestyle and fetishism, but the skintight black bodysuit remains an iconic garment in both communities. Make sure your suit is made from leather, or rubber latex. This is much more suited to use in the bedroom (or otherwise) than day to day use. Find some sexy, designer dresses. Make sure they suit you, and fit you well.
  2. Invest in some good high heels, such as thigh-high stiletto boots. Like the catsuit, these boots represent dominatrix attire to mainstream culture. Platform boots can also be worn. Try Christian Louboutin heels; the red sole reflects your secret, sexual nature.
  3. Wear a corset. A corset is a close-fitting undergarment (often worn as outerwear) that helps shape (and hold) your body. A bondage corset has become a staple in fetish wear. A bustier can also be worn as an alternative.
  4. Other accoutrements associated with being a domina, include:
    • Fishnet stockings or garter stockings.
    • Gloves; try finger-less or elbow length.
    • A whip or riding crop.

How to Act Like a Dominatrix

  1. Be confident. How can you dominate someone if you can't assert yourself? Focus on the fact that you are in charge.
  2. Have a plan. There's a big role-playing component with being a dominatrix. Be creative.
  3. Be flexible to your client's needs. A dominatrix must be well versed in common BDSM practices.
    • A pro-dominatrix does not have sexual contact with clients. She holds her submissive clients power in her hands, with mutual consent.
  4. Hold yourself correctly. Remember; you hold all of the power; maintain good posture and carry yourself up right at all times. This lets people know subconsciously that you are in charge.
  5. For inspiration; look to Irene Adler, from BBC's 'Sherlock' series.
  6. Keep in mind that it is not the clothes that make a domme;rather it is her self confidence, self awareness, and ability to control the conversation. The women in tight revealing clothes is more an image that can bring out the wrong behaviors in male, as it can simply reinforce that it is all about him. Instead, make it clear that it is all about you and your pleasures and amusements.
    • Also keep in mind that becoming a dominatrix takes other skills. Some of which are interpersonal and customer service oriented. Proper money management and perhaps marketing. Also like most self employed people you may go through phases of little to no business. In other words if money is the only reason you'd like to become a dominatrix you may want to save up an actual nest egg to venture into it.

Tips

  • Props and toys are a big part of the dominatrix world. If you're unsure what to purchase, visit your friendly neighborhood sex shoppe for some ideas.

Warnings

  • Don't rely on media stereotypes to inform your attitudes concerning female dominants.
  • Much dominatrix wear is made from PVC (polyvinyl chloride). This is a toxic plastic! Try to avoid this material.
  • Do not become abusive to your spouse.
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