How to Talk in an Arranged Marriage Meeting

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Some nervousness before an arranged marriage meeting is perfectly normal. At a meeting about an arranged marriage, you'll be discussing some life changing matters. Like lots of things in life, you'll feel better if you know what to expect. This article provides a guide that explains how to talk in an arranged marriage meeting and can help you ease through the whole process. Read on from step one below.

Steps

  1. Decide what kind of wife you want. Would a wife who is happy to be a housewife suit you? Do you want a sweet and caring wife who is family oriented, or are you looking for a business women? Do you want a wife with similar interests to you or do you think opposites attract?
  2. Remember to read the bio data two or three times before meeting the your potential wife.
    • The bio data should spark some ideas of what you can ask your possible life partner about. For example you can ask, "What do you like about your hobby?" Or, you can say, "Oh, you like cooking and traveling - so do I!".
    • Try searching for her on Facebook, or on Twitter. It will give you some details about her life and likes.
  3. Respect her parents. This could depend on local traditions. For example, in Hindu families, it may be customary to touch the feet of her parents.
  4. Remember the girl is nervous and so are you so calm down and smile. Make the other person feel comfortable.
  5. Ask a few simple questions. Try asking her name and then asking what does her name mean.
  6. Ask her if she really wants to do an arrange marriage or a love marriage. Many times a girl has family pressure to see a guy. Make her feel comfortable so that she can open up and tell the truth.
  7. Ask her what she wants to be. A housewife, business women or she is willing to play a dual role.
  8. To narrow down the matter, ask a girl whether she like a nuclear family or she like a joint family.
  9. Discuss religious faith if it matters in the marriage.
  10. Talk about each others hobbies. What habits are a turn on and what are a turn off. Many girls say that smoking is a big turn off for them.
  11. Ask if the girl is open to change. Your immediate need may be a business women, 3 years from now the need will be for a caring mom and a caring daughter-in-law as your parents will be aging and 5 years from now the need will be of a housewife. See whether she is flexible.
  12. Girls often ask how free the family is in respect of clothes. Be very honest and tell the truth. Reply with the truth about what is allowed at home, what is allowed at social functions and what will be allowed at outings.
  13. Girls often go to the extent of asking how much do you earn. Reply if it is fixed salary or profit percentage. Explain if you are not salaried people. You could be profit oriented. A business family is driven for profits and if it makes losses then it will pledge all its assets to make sure that family name doesn't get spoiled and salary is paid to employees first.
  14. Never ask a girl about her past. In life, girls have fallen for a guy and a lot of girls repent for their mistake so don't investigate the past details
  15. Be clear if you expect a girl to do a few duties. If you have grandparents who are old and parents had been operated twice for health issues and you wanted a housewife to take care of your parents do mention it. The same way how a girl take care of her parents and a mother take care of her child. Make such a thing clear.
  16. Don't make it a monologue. The meeting should be a conversation.
  17. Don't agree to marriage after the first meeting. Make sure that you have at least two or three good meetings before delivering the final decision.
  18. A lot of girls hide the truth in the first meeting and may open up only after the second or third meeting.
  19. Make sure you speak to your own family about respecting your marriage partner once the marriage is finalized.
  20. Request proper respect and privacy from your family in terms of not overstepping boundaries that are implied within a union of two.

Tips

  • Talk gently.
  • To know more about the person who you are keen to marry, check his/her behavior with other people.
  • Never argue.

Warnings

  • Do not assume stuff about the opposite sex beforehand as it may give you a hug letdown once you get married.
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